Have you ever wondered why you keep getting heartbroken and disappointed by the same people? Perhaps you believe you are a good person, but people seem to take advantage of you and then depress you. It’s all too easy to blame others and overlook the self-limiting behaviors that contribute to the factors.
Making the same mistakes over and over again is both frustrating and depressing. Also, keep in mind that it is not your fault that toxic people continue to enter your life. You must understand that you cannot be sorry for the toxic behavior of others.
You have a low sense of self-worth.
If you do not believe you deserve the best in life, you will continue to associate with those who mistreat you. It is difficult to see yourself as deserving of love and order when you have low self-esteem. If you know how much you’re worth, you’ll attract people who think the same way.
Recreating patterns from your past.
Take a moment to reflect on how your childhood was. What was your treatment like? Who was there to protect you? If the people closest to you were toxic and did not value you for who you were, it is easy to cling to them as an adult. Our childhood history has had such an impact on our lives. Adults who are perceived as heroes, regardless of their toxicity, become the people we admire.
You have not learned your lesson.
One of life’s most important lessons is that it’s okay to make mistakes, but not the same ones over and over again. It’s okay to find yourself in a toxic relationship, but it’s not okay to keep getting caught in the same net over and over again. Learn from your mistakes and stay on track. Change your bad habits and start making better decisions.
You ignore the red flags.
You hold on to the good in people so much that you ignore the red flags. Before dating someone, remember that you are dating their reality and not their potential to change. What if the other person never changes? Are you still going to handle being in a relationship with them? If the answer is no, then it is safe to walk away before it is too late to do so.
You do not have boundaries.
Toxic people are attracted to people who tolerate whatever comes to the table. If you do not know what you want and how you want it, you will allow everything and anything to enter your life. Setting boundaries will help you define yourself and receive respect from yourself and others.
You do not put yourself first.
Childhood trauma can also play a role in the belief of putting others first. If your emotional needs weren’t met growing up, you may still carry the subconscious belief that other people’s needs are more important than yours, and we tend to be drawn to what confirms our beliefs.