In a world where women are constantly fighting sexism, gender equality, and other injustices, we develop ourselves to be the most effective leaders we can be. Women are capable of any leadership role. We learn at a young age to take care of the home, our siblings, and, most of the time, the men around us. Childhood trauma and the responsibilities that come with it can easily cause us to lose sight of the fact that we require the assistance of others. Over Independence stems from the desire to protect oneself from abuse, betrayal, and neglect. The truth is that we are all interdependent on one another, including everything around us. This is to say that independence does not exist because we all rely on one another to perform at our best.
As an overly independent person, you may believe that you would fit better into a better team than the one to which you have been assigned. Even if everyone on your team has the same level of knowledge, you may believe that you work better alone. People who prefer to work alone believe that working alone allows them to complete tasks more efficiently and quickly. We may believe that if we do not ask for assistance, no one can fail us. It’s easy to think this way if you’re the oldest child and have to do everything alone. It is also a defense mechanism that arises when the people who were supposed to assist us as children fail to do so. You tell yourself all the time that you don’t need anyone, and people compliment you on it.
However, as a leader, independence can have an impact on your relationships with coworkers and, as a result, your productivity in the workplace.
Over-independence can lead you to believe that you are a hard worker. Hard work, on the other hand, is not the same as overwork. To accomplish everything on your own, you will eventually have to do more and work longer hours. To make matters worse, because you are a woman, you may find yourself under constant pressure to meet unrealistic productivity standards. This results in an inner breakdown of self, purpose, and life meaning. Also, there’s death.
Burnout can manifest as physical illness, being overly critical, feeling hopeless, insomnia, and constant anxiety. Doing all of the work on your own will lead to unrealistic expectations of yourself. You must learn to ask for help and convince yourself that it is acceptable to do so. Allowing others to assist you reduces your workload and allows you to be more productive mentally, physically, and emotionally. You will have more room to breathe and prioritize the things that are most important to you, such as your family and friends.
The most important step in recovering from over-independence is to ask for help. Make a space in your environment where others are welcome to assist in any way they can. As a leader, it is critical to cultivating positive relationships with those around you. Allowing for assistance will make your team feel more trusted, appreciated, and cared for. Begin with small steps, such as requesting assistance in logging into a website. Also, learn to express your emotions to yourself and those you trust. Allow yourself to be exposed. Remember that asking is a sign of strength, not weakness, also learn to trust others and ourselves.